Why should the kids only see Dad on the weekends? If you know any divorced couples, you probably know this kind of schedule is not uncommon. Even though the law prevents the court from discriminating against dads, child custody cases often rule in favor of moms. In fact, eight out of 10 cases end up this way.

If you are a dad going through a divorce, hearing statistics can be extremely stressful. If you are like many men, you may see your divorce as the of loss of your children. The good news is it does not have to be.

Why moms win most child custody cases

Despite discrimination protection, many dads often do not put up a fight because they still assume that they will lose their case. In actuality, if you are a well-fit father who wants 50-50 parenting rights, you have grounds to protect your rights. While you may have reservations about facing a custody battle, do not let the fear of unjust favoritism scare you. When parents have joint custody and share parenting responsibilities equally, everyone wins.

Why equal custody can be good for everyone

Time and time again, studies have shown that children thrive most when both parents are actively engaged in their lives. Although traditional roles have changed over the years, it is still common for mothers to call the parenting shots. If your ex-wife was making all the decisions about your kids before, this is your opportunity to take ownership of your role as a dad.

Psychology says spending time with your kids is one of the greatest things you can do. At the same time, when dads take on an equal parenting role, moms have more time to focus on other needs in their lives such as their careers or elderly family members. Both parents have the chance to develop their individual parenting skills as well as their individual selves, and the kids get to experience a well-rounded family dynamic.